The Success-Filled Home Series (Part 3) - Attract-a-Mate Bedrooms

Attract- A- Mate Bedroom

Penned by Lipstick Diva

    

In order to attract a mate you have to look your best, smell your best and act your best and in these current times of residential dating you should be sure to make your home’s presentation an equal extension of your style and taste. After all, this is a part of your ‘first impression’. When you think of cultivating romance in the home, you think of the bedroom. This is usually the space where ‘the magic happens’ so why not make your bedroom’s décor a magical wonderland!

    
    As an Interior Decorator, I love to incorporate soft and sensual materials when designing a romantically styled room. In order to achieve this look you should create a vision board of inspirational pictures from interior design magazines or stock photos found on the internet. Look for materials that say ‘sexy’, ‘sensual’ and ‘romantic’. The best sex and sleep comes from a bedroom that is welcoming, cozy and exotic. Some of the materials I recommend are faux fur throws, canopy, dim lighting, sheep skin rugs, sheer curtains, scented candles, flowers, chandeliers, high thread count Egyptian cotton sheets, mirrors, sensual artwork and of course color. The romance is in the details so don’t be afraid to mix and match colors and textures to achieve your desired results.

    We’ve all heard again and again that men are visual creatures. You attract a mate with your physical presentation and keep him interested with a winning personality. When inviting a male into your home you want him to see that you are warm, clean, organized, sensual and the woman of his dreams. You should ignite his five senses with not only yourself but your home as well. Choose conversational pieces for your coffee table, display the interesting books you’ve read, hang up your artwork to share the tale of how you came to choose that particular piece, cook a delicious meal and let the aroma of scented candles fill the air, play an arrangement of music to showcase your diverse taste and last but not least have a plethora of topics on deck to discuss to keep the conversation going. You are sure to be a keeper with all this and your super sexy self! Remember reveal something, not everything ;0)

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Stop Tryna Be More Spider Than A Spider

Okay, so, first I got me a new little part time gig today (Yay for me!). I'm a receptionist at a nail salon and spa. It's kinda like being a hostess or maitre'd at a restaurant, only its seating people for manicures and pedicures instead of meals. It's a little bit of an adjustment, but I like it.

So anywho, I  get home from a full day of training and guess what greets me on my door....? A 3-day notice to pay rent or deliver possession. But wait, it's not even the 1st of the month you say? Well this letter isn't from my landlord, its from the Homeowner's Association and apparently, my landlord hasn't been paying her HOA fees, or her mortgage for that matter. As mad as I could be, and should be, I'm too tired to care about it tonight, so I grab a 6-pack of Yuengling Black and Tan, some pantyhose and heels for work tomorrow and head for my favorite think tank, my garden tub.

While in the tub, drinking beers and soaking my cares away, I notice that a spider has built a web in the space between the bottom of my toilet and the wall. Now, granted I don't like spiders, but I've been having an annoying case of gnats and fruit flies so I'm thinking, "This is GREAT", my new eight-legged friend can eat these fruit flies! No sooner did I come to this realization that two of those pesky little Bzzzers flew right past me. So, I decide, I'm going to help my spider by catching his meal for him.

Well, long story short, I damn near broke every mirror in my bathroom trying to catch this fly. I tried trapping them in cups, towels and blocking them with paper, to get them close to the web. The I tried using my computer screen to attract and kill one to drop onto his web. I succeeded in mushing one gnat, and even dropping him on Spidi's web, but he didn't even register anything had touch his web, it wasn't alive, and he was dependent on his web to do its job and catch his food, alive and viable.

Okay, so here's the big aHA I got from this experience, drunken in the tub, tryna be more spider than a spider.... sometimes we try to be more God than God, more Spirit than Spirit. more spider than a spider. We chase things down, damn near breaking every part of our lives and barely get excited about things just "dropped" onto our webs, that we didn't have to catch ourselves.....

Lest we forget that, Spirit has enabled us to build strong webs?

And with these webs, if we are only patient and methodical, like the spider, then we can trust what we need will land in the web, right?

Another thing, I noticed, is that whenever the flies did get close to the spider's web (naturally, without my "help"), that he would react immediately, scurrying quickly to try to grab this opportunity he could sense was close at hand, before it got away. When he didn't catch it, he just went back to waiting, patiently, for his web to do the job.

How quickly do we react to opportunities that we sense are near our web? How frustrated do we get when they allude us even though we did our best to capture them? Stop tryna be more spider than the spider, and just build a strong web. If you don't catch anything, perhaps build a bigger web. Then wait, and trust, something you need will fly into it.

I'm willing to bet my spider friend will have a meal by morning, with no assistance needed from me.

ManSpeak

    So today seemed to be a day that all my ladies were tryna understand the men, and all the men gave up on trying to understand the ladies, HA! I spent a great portion of the day chatting with a male friend about how the men I've been encountering lately have a tendency to say one thing, things that sound great....but then they act in complete opposition to what they say.

For example, had a young man contact me this past Friday, said he wanted to see me and take me out. I told him to plan a date and let me know what time to be ready. Later that evening, he calls and pretty much cancels the date. Ok, you got off work a little late (8:30pm, not really late but whatever), I'll let it slide. Well the next day, we end up making dinner plans again, to see each other at 8, and at 7:30 he texts me, canceling once again. Okay....last I checked, YOU contacted ME bro, so what is really up with that?

My friend told me that guys these days are used to women who will chase them, sit on hold for them, and just otherwise cater to their every whim. Well...I'm no puppet, so that's not going to work. I definitely want some companionship, but not that damn bad.

Fellas step ya game up, Ladies, make them.